Valentine’s Day Gifts for Her Based on Stage of Your Relationship
When in a relationship, no matter whether you have been married for a number of years, or only just started dating a month ago, there is a certain amount of social pressure put upon the man to buy his girlfriend or wife a great Valentine’s Day gift as a symbol of his love for her. Each stage of a relationship requires a gift that is appropriate, but knowing what to get can be a challenge.
Find The Right Gift For Your Lady
Less than a Month – This is a very new relationship and there is no love involved but still you will be expected to give her some token gift on Valentine’s Day. To avoid any misunderstandings steer clear of anything that symbolizes love such as red roses, heart-shaped items, rose jewelry sets or chocolates in a heart-shaped box. Chocolates are a good choice but an everyday gift box will suffice at this early stage of your relationship. If you want to get her something more substantial a coffee mug with a cute saying on it, or a key ring for her house and car keys, or a scarf are all appropriate gifts.
1 to 3 Months – Still in the early stages but getting to know each other you can choose a gift that is a little more personal but still steer clear of the items that symbolize love to avoid confusion. You are good friends at this stage and probably you have an idea of what she likes and dislikes. Taking her out for a nice dinner (not necessarily romantic) and giving her a bouquet of flowers (not red roses) and a box of chocolates will be a nice way to tell her that you think she is fun to be with.
3 to 6 Months – The newness of your relationship has worn off a little bit by now and you know that there are lots of things you admire about her, and that you want to see where your relationship takes you both. If you have declared affection for her but not love then you can choose a gift that you know will please her. A necklace that is not heart-shaped is appropriate but not ‘over the top’ and can’t be seen as a declaration of undying love. Avoid rings at this stage of your relationship. A bracelet is another great choice. You could buy her something fun but useful such as books she would like, music, take her to a concert or theater performance or have a day out at a fun park.
6 Months to a Year – At this point in your relationship you are probably developing strong feelings for her but are still uncertain as to whether she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Taking it slow is always a good idea when uncertain, and so your gift to her on Valentine’s Day should speak of your feelings for her without any risk of being misconstrued as a proposal of marriage. Still avoid the heart-shaped jewelry, but a heart-shaped box of chocolates, some pink roses or a bouquet of other flowers and a semi-romantic dinner for two is quite appropriate.
A Year or More – The two of you have been seeing each other for quite a while and are definitely a couple so it will be only natural to want to add a little romance into your Valentine’s Day celebrations. A candlelit dinner for two, whether at a restaurant or cooked at home, and a quiet evening enjoying each other’s company may be all she needs to know that she is important to you. If you want to give her a gift also a nice sweater, jacket or a fun pair of slippers may be a nice gesture. You know her well enough now to know what she likes to wear and if you are still uncertain just make sure the store you buy from has a good return policy and don’t be offended if you don’t quite hit the mark with your choice. She will know that you tried really hard to get her something she would like and be appreciative of the effort.
Married with Children – If you have been married for several years, have children and rarely get to spend time alone together Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year when you should go all out and make sure that you spoil your wife completely and utterly. Arrange your favorite babysitter to mind the children or drop them off at your Mom’s for the night. Take your wife out for a really romantic, candlelit dinner for two at the best restaurant you can afford (book in advance, guys!) and then whisk her off to the honeymoon suite of a nearby hotel so you can shut out the rest of the world and just concentrate on each other.